Love Yourself

February 10, 2014

Love Yourself!

My Mother will be 86 this year and she gave birth to me she was only 20 years old. Fifty years ago she was 36 in May and I would be 16 in August but her pearls of wisdom she shared with me still ring true. My favorite time of day at age 16 was when I had my mother's attention usually right after school. She would have milk and homemade cookies to eat while we discussed my day.

My Mother was stunningly attractive and how I wished that her beauty would rub off my 16 year old body.  I was extremely lacking in self-confidence and believed that boys only liked girls who were curvy and sexy or brilliant or wealthy.  One day over our afternoon snack I meekly asked my Mother what is a girl to do to attract boys when she not at all attractive but awkward and shy. 

My mother smiled and told me that she knew exactly how I felt as she was the same bone thin girl at her age. "You will grew into your body but you must become a confident person as it happens."

"How can I do that? I quizzed her

"You must learn to love yourself first before anyone else can. If you do not love your body and brain it will show to every person you met." 

I did try to love myself over the course of my life but then I would be in a relationship with a weak man and he would make me feel worthless.  Now after 15 years of therapy, I can say with regrets that I listened to others about my worth for too long....please find your confidence and walk with your head up high!